If you're one of the queers who think we'd be treated better if straights think we didn't choose to be gay, forget it.
Whether we were born gay or choose to be gay is irrelevant... we are still the target of hatred. Queers are the final front of unrestricted discrimination in America, prejudice everyone can agree on. This is flat out bigotry and, since bias needs no reason, it's permissible to hate us.
The question of whether we were born gay should have no meaning: we are entitled to be who we are, regardless. We deserve to be out and given legal protection no matter how we walk, talk, look or what we do sexually. It shouldn't matter if you are a truck driver or a teacher, are butch or femme, use a dildo or a butt plug, have one lover or many.
We should not have to get laws passed to decide who can visit us in a hospital. No one should be able to deny us an apartment or a job or pass amendments to limit our rights or our family life. Our rights should not be dependent on getting married or being in the military or behaving the way someone imagines we should.
We need no permission to be who we are.
Besides, every queer knows the real "choice" in being gay is the choice to say it. It's the choice to acknowledge it that's at question -- to yourself and to everyone else. The question isn't whether we are gay. It's whether we are out.
We don't have to figure out why we are queer. It doesn't matter. History shows that genes will not save you when someone with power wants to keep you down or to eliminate you.
Face reality. Your genes will not protect you. The Rapture Right is out to get us. You are not safe. It doesn't matter if you were born this way. It doesn't matter if others think you were born this way. If they want to get you, you're screwed anyway.
Christian right wing propaganda has a solid critique of the "gay gene" research. They use its lack of scientific validity to say we are trying to manipulate people into thinking we were "born this way" so we can continue our "immoral life style". Many other religious leaders and politicians -- maybe even your family -- also think we are debauched, or at the very least, abnormal. For people who believe heterosexuality is the norm, homosexuality is still a deviation, chosen or not.
As long as America thinks gay and gay sex are the same thing the Choice Or Birth argument is moot. They can't get past the sex factor. Even our liberal supporters think books about lesbian and gay families are not appropriate for young children. Somehow, they think they would have to explain queer sexual behavior to their children if they read a story about two mommies even though books about straight parents are completely non-sexual.
Right, left or center -- no one really wants us to be who we are.
It's time to give up trying to explain our existence. So queers: Stop trying to prove we can't help it. don't deny our differences. Revel in our unique cultural contributions. Forget your attempt to ape the straight world by pushing for marriage and military service as if these will make us more acceptable.
End this chronicle of self-hatred, of sell out, of limiting our lives and the lives of the queers who came after us.
Quit explaining. Start expanding.
This time it's personal. It's survival. Arguing Choice or Birth will not save us.